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Sometimes, I think of Jason and it's hard for me to remember that he was real and not just some made-up memory. But when I close my eyes and think real hard, I can still remember what his bedroom smelled like in the winter and what his dry bony hands felt like. And I can remember what his hair felt like in my hands. God, that boy had beautiful hair. I can still hear his voice say my name and hear his giggle. He used to laugh at himself. He really thought that he was funny. I still don't know how I let him slip through my fingers. How everyone did. Everyone loved him, but no one loved him enough. He was a blackhole of love.

I don't want to forget him. I'm terrified of forgetting him. Especially, because a lot of the time, it seems like I am the only one that still remembers him. He's been dead 13 years and I've remembered him every single day.

I miss you so much, J.

Hey everyone. I got this pyramid book club chain-letter thing from my sister and I wanted to check to see if any of you were interested in participating.

Basically, you send out one book and 6 letters and then other people down the line will send you a book. Here's the letter:

Recycled Book Club

This is an informal book club idea that I got from a friend so I thought I would pass it on.

1. All you have to do is mail a paperback that you have already read to the person listed at the bottom of this page.

You don’t even have to buy a box or anything. If you have a padded envelope at home, that would be fine. And if you don’t have that, you have use just a plain paper grocery bag. I just wrap the book up like a present and tape it up with some packaging tape and you are good to go. When you go to the Post Office, send it “Media Mail.” This is the cheapest way to do it; they might try to talk you out of it by saying it will take a whole week, but it doesn’t really matter. Don’t listen to them! I mailed two normal-sized novels last week in ond package and it was less than $3.)

If all goes as planned, you will receive 36 books. It will be interesting to see where they come from and the assortment of books you receive.

2. Copy this letter and put my address label at the bottom and then sent the letter to six different people. In each letter, enclose 6 of your own address labels. You don’t need to send them a book. Just send the book to the person who’s label appears on the letter that you received.

3. If you have no desire to participate, just let me know. I got this from a friend so I didn’t want to disappoint her by not trying to get her some books. Just let me know. It’s a pretty good idea because you get rid of something just sitting on a shelf and you will probably get some pretty good replacements.

Look below to see who will be receiving your book! Happy reading!

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Okay, so if you want to participate, email me your address at isisinator@gmail.com and I'll send you the official letter with the addresses and such. My sister's really into this, so I'm trying keep it alive for her, but it actually doesn't seem like too bad of an idea...

Anyway, just let me know!

Okay, so the point of this entry is to write about my mom and how much she bothers me. It's hard because I don't really want to reupset myself by rethinking about it all, but I've had a knot in my stomach since Saturday and I think writing about it may be the only way to get it out.

( This gets lengthy. )

Hi everyone.

I'm home from the hospital and alive and kicking. Well, not kicking. But definitly alive.

I need to catch up on my flist, but not right now since the walk from the bed to the computer has completely exhausted me.

Pain was horrible, but has now moved to manageable.

That's all for now. More later.

HER RESPONSE:

I read your letter & number one.....Please read my letter over, i did NOT ask for a refund, in fact said complete opposite, said i would keep it!
Number two... i have the receipt from PayPal that says they paid for me, for a INLAY Butterfly and Flower Lighter Cover item # 19142891. to isisinator@gmail.com. I am not a young lady. I know the difference in INLAY and CLOISONNÉ. Even though i did not mention in previous letter that i knew the difference, since i own both kinds of products, what you advertised and sent is NOT INLAY, its Cloisonné! You did not mention anything in your selling of product that i would have to use tape to hold lighter in place! I printed out my order and PayPal's too and they paid for a Inlay product, not a Cloisonné product!
If you had not been so rude to be as blunt to tell me to read product description before ordering, i would have let the matter go but you insinuating i didn't know what i was buying! I told you i have lighter covers from another dealer on Etsy, they are exactly as advertised, but not yours, this is NOT a Inlay product, its Cloisonné! They advertise as Homemade and thats what they are.
If you knew it was or even thought it was Inlaid, why would you not cover it with something for shipping, it was put in a very tiny mail box envelope, not even in a box first or even wrapped in something so simple as a Kleenex! It was like you would toss something into a garbage can, thats how i think of it as. Inlay is pieces inlaid and put to together in a pattern, Cloisonné is painted or maybe outlined is better word of a design. Thats that i have, is exactly that, not several pieces put together in anyway anywhere on this lighter case! Like i said in my letter to you , i am unable to send back this item, i am that disabled as not to get to a post office. I live alone. I have a friend also that knows the difference between Inlay and Cloisonné, please advertise as product really is, my advice to you. The next person might do something more than just be irritated and accept the product.

MY RESPONSE:

Mrs. Hughes,

Cloisonne is a type of inlay, therefore describing the product as
inlaid is accurate. I realize that you said that you would keep the
product, but since my shop policies state that I do not offer refunds
or exchanges and that all products are sold "as-is" it's not as though
you have a choice. However, if the product had not been described
accurately or had arrived damaged, I would have offered you a refund.
Here is the product description:

"Beautifully detailed cigarette lighter case. Delicate butterfly and
flower design on both sides. Colors are pearl white, royal blue,
turquoise, magenta and other rich colors. Fits standard Bic lighter
but the lighter slides through the bottom due to wear. I've fixed this
by adding a piece of tape on the inside, but if it didn't have this
issue, I'd be selling it for much more."

As you can see, if does, in fact, say that the lighter slides through
the case and needs to be held in place with a piece of tape.

Again, I am sorry that you are dissatisfied with your purchase, but
the flaw was disclosed in the product description and the product was
described accurately and arrived safely. If you would like to
continue to write me and complain, that is fine, but I will not
respond to further communications.

Thank you and good night,

Jennifer

Okay, so I sold a lighter cover on Etsy. This was the product description:

Beautifully detailed cigarette lighter case. Delicate butterfly and flower design on both sides. Colors are pearl white, royal blue, turquoise, magenta and other rich colors. Fits standard Bic lighter but the lighter slides through the bottom due to wear. I've fixed this by adding a piece of tape on the inside, but if it didn't have this issue, I'd be selling it for much more.

This is the email she sent me after she received it:

I just received your Inlay Butterfly & Flower Lighter cover, and very disappointed in it. Its very pretty is the best i can say about it. It is too big for the Bic Lighter! I slips through either way i put lighter into the case, therefore slips out either way i put it in. Not enough material you used to hold lighter in place at the bottom! I have ordered these lighter covers from Etsy before and who i bought from before did it right way. I liked the design you had showing and with the cost of this item from you, I expected it to be as good but its not. I have the other one now for over 3 years, and never had a problem. I have had to take scotch tape to put on bottom of this case from you to hold lighter in its case, only way to keep lighter in.Please in future make sure they are tighter and have a correct bottom to hold lighter in. I will keep it as i am disabled and cannot get to Post office to return it. Another problem was the way you shipped it, it was not covered with anything! Just slipped into the envelope and shipped, its a wonder it didn't get broken in shipment or at least dented! You lucked out on shipping such a item without some support for it being bounced around as you should know it does during shipping!
Thanks, i will go back to previous seller for my cases now.

This is the response I wanted to send her:

NO SHIT.

This is what I actually sent:

I am sorry that you are dissatisfied with your purchse, but if you
read the description of the item, it clearly describes this problem
and even suggests that you use a piece of tape. I did not make this
item. I sell vintage items and because of the age of the case, the
mechanisim that holds the lighter in place has worn away. That's why
I was selling it for a discounted amount, as it says in the product
description. The envelope that I mailed it in was a padded envelope
made by the US Postal Service and I felt as though the envelope alone
provided enough padding, and since it arrived safely, it seems that I
was correct. Because the defect was described in the product
description and it arrived safely, I am not able to offer you a
refund. Again, I am sorry that you are dissatified, but recommend
that in the future, you read the product description before making a
purchase, especially on vintage items.

Thank you for your purchase.

She's probably going to leave me negative feedback, but it had to happen eventually, I guess. I mean, seriously, I disclosed the issue, sold it for dirt cheap and it arrived safely. What else could I do? So annoying. I love how she says that she's not going to return it because she can't get to the post office. As if that's an option. I don't offer refunds or exchanges. Of course, if something was legitimately wrong, I would, but not just because you didn't read about the item before you bought it.